Moving from elementary school to middle school is a very important and exciting periode for future teens , Between discovering a new area, making new friends, rolling in tougher classes, and more resposability, this periode is very crucial for the kid’s maturity.
Amy Gardner knew the importance of the middle school, and knew that it won’t be just a walk in the park, that’s why she felt she had to give her 11-year-old daughter Breonna a minty lesson on using her words. Just as Breonna was getting ready to sleep in her last night before transitionning into 6th grade, Amy gave her a toothpaste tube and ordered her to push everything out, and then instructed her put it all inside again.
The daughter couldn’t do it of course.
she said “But Mom, that’s impossible, It will never be like it was before!“
Then Amy told Breonna to remember the toothpaste tube for the rest of her life, because the words that leave her mouth are exacly like the toothpaste when it leaves the tube, they can’t ever be taken back once they leave her mouth.
she said :
“You will remember this plate of toothpaste for the rest of your life. Your words have the power of life or death. As you go into middle school, you are about to see just how much weight your words carry. You are going to have the opportunity to use your words to hurt, demean, slander and wound others. You are also going to have the opportunity to use your words to heal, encourage, inspire and love others. You will occasionally make the wrong choice; I can think of three times this week I have used my own words carelessly and caused harm. Just like this toothpaste, once the words leave your mouth, you can’t take them back. Use your words carefully, Breonna. When others are misusing their words, guard your words. Make the choice every morning that life-giving words will come out of your mouth. Decide tonight that you are going to be a life-giver in middle school. Be known for your gentleness and compassion. Use your life to give life to a world that so desperately needs it. You will never, ever regret choosing kindness.”
« When everyone else is misusing his words, guard yours, » she said « Make the decision every day that only life-giving words are coming from your mouth »
After becoming foster parents, Amy and her husband adopted Breonna and her 7-year-old sister in 2014, she said that Breonna understood exacly what the « minty » metaphor meant. The family spent time discussing the some exemples of harmful and lif-giving words.
Amy told the ABC News that « It’s really important to me, only having nine years with Breonna, to produce a child that’s learned that she needs to be responsible for her actions and her words , »
And that « We certainly don’t expect Breonna not to make mistakes in middle school, but we want to help her. »
Amy gave her daughter and the world a very powerful message about the power of our words, and also about the importance of taking the full resposibility of raising one’s children and teaching them to spread joy in the world.
Check out Amy’s full post on Facebook